Domestic abuse

Domestic abuse

Preventing and eradicating violence and abuse in Hillingdon is everybody's business.

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What is domestic abuse?

Domestic abuse can include, but is not limited to, the following types of abuse: psychological, emotional, physical, sexual and financial. It also includes what is known as 'honour' based violence, female genital mutilation (FGM) and forced marriage.

Domestic abuse affects people of every class, gender, level of wealth, geography, age, race, disability and sexuality. The violence can begin at any stage of the relationship and may continue after the relationship has ended. It is a pattern of controlling and aggressive behaviour that is intentional and calculated to exercise power and control within a relationship.

Recognise the signs of domestic abuse

We have a zero tolerance to domestic abuse

We are committed to preventing and eradicating all forms of violence and abuse against women, children and men in Hillingdon and to support those victimised to achieve their full potential in life.

We want Hillingdon to be a safe space for everyone and we are committed to our zero tolerance policy to domestic abuse. Our main priorities are:

  1. Prevention and engagement
    We and our partners are committed to working with communities, charities and others to make violence and abuse unacceptable in all communities. There is a clear commitment to protecting victims and breaking the cycle of offending.
  2. Service provision
    We and our partners will engage with victims and survivors to understand their experiences of services. By listening to victims and survivors, action will be taken to improve. The right services will be commissioned and coordinated to prevent violence and abuse in a sustained way.
  3. Pursuing perpetrators
    We and our partners will work to strengthen the justice response. This work will also include strengthening agencies work in assessing and minimising the risks posed by perpetrators. 
  4. Partnership working
    Together the Safer Hillingdon Partnership will work with a broad coalition of partners to create a safer borough and a safer future for victims, survivors and future generations.

Read more in our Domestic Abuse Strategy 2018-2021 [414KB]

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Are you a victim of domestic abuse?

Everyone has arguments, and everyone disagrees with their partners, family members and others close to them from time to time. But if certain behaviours start to form a consistent pattern, then it is an indication of domestic abuse and violence.

If your abuser is threatening you, hitting you, kicking you, using a weapon against you or threatening to kill you, call 999.

Take the Women's Aid self-assessment to find out if you are in an abusive relationship.

If you are a victim of domestic abuse or violence, make a safety plan to help you live safely and be safe if you stay.

Call our dedicated Independent Domestic Violence Advocates (IDVAs) on 020 8246 1745.

Are you worried about someone else?

If you witness abuse and believe the victim is at risk of serious harm, call 999.  For all non emergencies, call 101 or, if you are a member of staff working in care or health settings, you can use our online report a safeguarding concern form. 

For anonymous reporting, use the CrimeStoppers website.

If you are concerned about your mum, sister, brother, cousin, colleague, neighbour, employee or friend who is experiencing abuse, you can also help.

If you are worried about a child's welfare, or believe they are at risk of harm, contact Hillingdon Multi-Agency Safeguarding Hub (MASH) to make a safeguarding referral on 01895 556 633.

For more information, use our resources guide to find help locally.

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Are you concerned about your behaviour?

Do you:

  • threaten or manipulate your partner?
  • physically hurt your partner?
  • get jealous or angry when your partner is away from you?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, call the Respect phoneline on 0808 802 4040 and choose to stop hurting the one you love.

There is more information available on the Respect website.

Do you know an abuser?

It can be hard to speak out when someone you know is committing a crime, but you can contact Crimestoppers anonymously to tell them about abuse.

Call Crimestoppers on their anonymous, freephone line 0800 555 111 to report abuse.

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Helplines and support

National Domestic Violence Helpline

Telephone: 0808 2000 247
Email: helpline@womensaid.org.uk
Hillingdon Independent DV AdvocatesTelephone: 020 8246 1745
Victim SupportTelephone: 0845 450 3883
Galop (national LGBT+ domestic abuse)Telephone: 0800 999 5428
Men's Advice LineTelephone: 0808 081 0827
Forced Marriage UnitTelephone: 0207 008 0151
Email: fmu@fco.gov.uk
HestiaTelephone: 020 8848 5893
Richmond FellowshipTelephone: 020 7697 3300
Rape CrisisTelephone: 0808 802 9999
NSPCCTelephone: 0808 800 5000
The Traveller MovementTelephone: 0207 607 2002
Email: info@travellermovement.org.uk
Traveller education serviceTelephone: 01895 556207
Hillingdon Women's CentreTelephone: 01895 259578


There are a large number of organisations which operate at the national, London and local levels serving and supporting Hillingdon residents. Use our local resources guide [419KB] for more information.

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Page last updated: 22 Jan 2020